More tidiness in the children's room

Edina knows the challenges in family life not only because she is a mother herself, but because she has had different experiences through her work. Order is often a central point of conflict. In this blog post, she shows how you can provide more order in your home.

Edina Weth-Weil

From Hearts graduate educator, Marte Meo advisor, mother of two children, and encourager.

Oh dear, what does it look like here?

Each family should find out for themselves in what rhythm the children's room is tidied up. Whether right after playing, once a week, or when you can no longer see the floor... One thing is clear! It is part of life as a whole, and you cannot avoid tidying up.

Edina is a certified educator and shares her tips for more order in the children's room.

It’s all about the texture!

Now we adults have something important over the children: a
certain understanding of "Textured" - both outwardly and inwardly.

  • Outer Textured

    The outer textured can be implemented well and, above all, visibly for the children.

    For example, through shelves with boxes that are equipped with small symbols for the toys contained inside, or the beautiful, colorfully well-distinguishable storage baskets from Sterntaler.

  • Inner Textured

    But how do children learn an inner structure? Here they need the positive, encouraging, and close guidance from us adults.

    One basic idea applies: the younger the child, the smaller the task! Because the most important thing is: The child should be able to manage the task well and thereby experience themselves as capable. This helps them build a good self-image.

Tidying up can be learned!

The term "tidying up" is very clear to us adults. For
children, it is rather abstract. They face the wildly played-in mess and have no idea how or where to begin.

"Tidying up" basically serves as an umbrella term for smaller categories, which in turn have subcategories.

One task after another!

To engage with the task and develop motivation as well as willingness to cooperate, it is up to us as caregivers to create a positive atmosphere in which tidying up can be learned in a relaxed way.

Approach your child with good cheer! Do not see the upcoming task as an annoying burden, but as a good opportunity to spend time with your child, giving them many small moments of success through your positive guidance.

And now the practicing and repeating begins. Your child will show you how long they need your support.

Here are a few important features at a glance:

Phone away

Handy away! Smile calmly and start at the beginning with a clear overview of what happens next: "So, my dear, now we begin tidying up. We'll start with the craft corner."

Specific tasks

Give your child a small concrete task (what should go where) from a subcategory that they can manage well:

"Please put all the colored pencils in the pencil case first."

Give time

Give your child time and watch carefully what happens. This shows your child that you trust them to complete the task at their own pace.

Praise

Smile encouragingly. Acknowledge their effort when they have put the pencils away, for example with "Great. That was quite quick." This serves as a clear end to this small task. The child notices that their effort was recognized and feels seen and appreciated.

A good feeling!

Always remember: Give your child the feeling
"You can do this and your efforts are noticed." This gives motivation, and with motivation, learning is very
easy.

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